We do our best to become what language tells us we are: ‘he’ or ‘she’. ‘Difference and desire’ considers how ideas of identity and gender come from language and the effects of culture on our accounts of ourselves. Identity can be conceived of as a set of psychological characteristics, as a social role, as recognition of the appropriateness to oneself of classification, or membership of a group. What role does power have in our relationships? Foucault argued that all relations are ones of power. Norms, are culturally produced and represent a form of repression. Poststructuralism is not a system, nor a unified theory. This is because its key term is ‘differences’.